Within a year ago, I was talking to a friend called Wain, and we were talking about what we were working on at that point in our life. I believe he had been working on a couple of videos and I could have been putting a book together.
It was during this time he went a little bit deeper and was curious to know how I perceived myself. So, when I said that I would shortly be publishing the book, he wasn’t pleased to just give me positive feedback and then to move on; he wanted to see what was going on for me.
A Big Difference
I was amazed by this as I was used to people giving me positive feedback when I spoke about something like this. But Wain, on the other hand, is not someone who has the tendency to say things that a lot of other folks say.
I thought about what he said and it became clear that I didn’t have an empowering view of myself.
An Important Question
To put it differently, I was so focused on what I wanted to achieve that it caused me to be unaware of why I wanted to attain it. In the end, looking into how I saw myself was a way to get in touch with my self-image.
With this in mind, it became clear that I needed to be coming from the right place and that it was not sufficient to simply do things. In this context, the quality of the work that I made was only a part of it; another part was seeing myself as somebody who produced quality work.
A Big Effect
How I saw myself would have an effect on how I introduced my job, what I did with it and even the energy which was behind it. Therefore, if this portion of the equation was not right, I would only be able to get up to now.
Part of me could be on board, but another part of me wouldn’t be going in the same direction. What I came to see was that every part of me wasn’t going in the same direction; I was sabotaging myself.
Shinning the Light
After being asked this question by Wain, I might have ended up getting defensive. The trouble is that if this had indeed happened, it would have stopped me from being able to reflect on what he asked me.
As a consequence of this, my mind would have been closed and it would not have been possible for me to grow. I knew he was coming from the right place and I was open-minded, so fortunately this did not happen.
This is just one the many powerful questions that Wain has asked me over the years; his head is like a guided missile. The difference is that he’s not interested in destroying buildings; he is interested in destroying false beliefs and outlooks.